When It’s Hard To Pray After Loss
How do you pray to the same God who could’ve saved your child… but didn’t? How do you talk to God when He didn’t protect the one thing you begged Him to?"
You lost your child—and the last thing you want to do is pray or sit in a church. I see you. And I want to offer you something that helped me…
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After my son died… I found it almost impossible to pray. Not because I lost my faith, I lost my words. What do you say to God who loved the world So much He gave His only Son… but took yours? I was angry too. But I’ve learned something since then.
Your anger is real and valid. But most of the time, it’s not the whole story. Because anger is a surface emotion. It’s what rises to the top…But underneath it? That’s where the truth lives. So my question is this -What’s underneath your anger??
Do you feel betrayed? Abandoned? Resentful?
I don’t know the details of your story, What helped me wasn’t forcing myself to pray —It was getting honest about what I was really feeling. For me, it was some resentment, Shame? Guilt? Revenge? And that’s what I started bringing to God.
I would encourage you to relly think about, and identify your true emotions. Name them. If you’re open to it, bring those to God. Not just ‘God, I’m mad’...
But: ‘God, I feel abandoned. I feel forgotten. I don’t understand why You let this happen.’”**
God doesn’t need a perfect prayer.
He never asked you to pretend. He just asked you to come.
God, I’m here… but I’m hurting.’
You don’t even need words at all.
Just show up. Let your tears speak when your voice can’t.
That counts. That’s still prayer."**
So bring Him your disappointment. He can handle your rage.
Bring Him your broken heart. He can handle your doubt.
He already knows.
And He’s not offended by your honesty—He’s honored by it.
So if you’re stuck in anger, try replacing the word.
Ask: ‘What’s underneath this?’ Name it.
Then take that to prayer. God doesn’t want performance. He wants presence.
How about you? Did you have a hard time seeking God after loss?
