Science Behind Grief
If you feel like you're breaking down over and over again after they died… this might explain why.
I’m Philip. I help people navigate grief and live with purpose after loss. If that’s you—or someone you love—hit follow.
Your brain still thinks they’re coming back—even if you know they’re gone.
It spent years building a neural map of them—Their voice, their footsteps, their routines.
Your brain doesn’t just track who they were…It tracks where they are, when they’re coming back, how they make you feel.
Here’s what nobody tells you —Your brain wasn’t designed to just accept that someone you love could be gone forever–And the deeper the bond, the more your mind believes it’s unbreakable.
When someone you love dies, and you suddenly remember something they said, they held your hand, or a song that reminds you of them. Your brain doesn’t just… update. It can’t. We’re wired for reunion. So when there’s no reunion… It’s like a broken connection, our minds can’t make sense of it.
This is why you keep expecting them to walk through the door.
Roll over in bed.
Or text you like they always did.
It’s why you still feel them.
It’s why you swear you saw them across the street some days.
You’re not going crazy. The pathways you’ve relied on for most of your life were changed or destroyed forever. Your brain is trying to catch up with reality—and it takes time to redraw that map.
So every new moment that reminds you they’re not here— the way they walked through the door at 5:12, the one coffee cup they always used, your brain learned to expect them, not as a memory, but as a presence. And that realization that they’re not here, that’s the update. That’s your brain rewiring itself to survive the impossible..
And it doesn’t happen once. It happens over and over again. Of course, it hurts. It’s not weakness. It’s survival. So give yourself grace. This is how healing happens. One breath, one moment, one update at a time
If this helped explain what you’re feeling, let me know in the comments. I’ll be dropping new videos soon, sharing real, practical tools to help you navigate this. Don’t forget to follow so you don’t miss the next one.
